If you’re in a committed relationship, it’s highly likely that the bond you have with your partner is the most important thing to you. However, it’s easy to get distracted. In the midst of all the stresses daily life throws your way, you might find yourself taking your relationship for granted. Don’t. Show your partner they are priority and enjoy the cascade of positivity that results for you and your partner by putting more focus on your relationship. We spoke with Mark Webb, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist at South Georgia Psychiatric and Counseling Center, to give some tips on ways to build a stronger, happier relationship.
Be a Better Listener
Know when to shut up and pay attention. One of the most honoring things you can do for your partner is to listen when they talk. What you have to say may seem important, but you are only one side of the relationship. By listening, you may truly hear what your partner is saying about the relationship.
Give More Compliments
Life can be hard. Some people never hear a kind word. Don’t let this happen to your partner. Speak words of encouragement and acknowledge the things they do and who they are.
Watch How You Tease
Don’t make humorous putdowns about your partner. It’s funny when you see it on television, but strive to never make your partner the brunt of your jokes. Over time it will hurt their esteem, and they may grow to resent you.
Show Some Enthusiasm
Even if you’ve been at work all day, greet your partner with enthusiasm. It will set a better tone for both of you for the rest of the evening.
Argue (The Right Way)
It is possible not to argue, but if you do, maintain a sense of respect and honor for your partner. Don’t say things that are hurtful and full of negative emotion.
Focus Less on the Flaws
Focus on what your partner does right versus what they do wrong. If overall your partner scores around 80 percent in terms of what you want from a partner, then learn to let a little bit slide from time to time.
Show Your Commitment
Do not hold back for fear of getting hurt or out of concerns of past failures in other relationships. Your level of commitment may be the most important aspect of your relationship’s success.
Strive to Serve
Being service oriented toward your partner means putting their needs ahead of your needs. Your level of greatness as a partner can be measured in your servitude.
Show Your Desire
Your relationship is a reflection of your desire. Hold a very strong desire for your partner and watch your relationship soar to heights you have never imagined. Enjoy everything about your partner and enjoy every minute with them, even if they seem self-consumed.
Remember Your Manners
Always show proper etiquette towards your partner. Just because the relationship is locked in doesn’t mean you can neglect behaviors of respect and honor.
Quick Fact: Relationships aren’t 50/50. They are 100/100! Don’t ever coast as a partner. Always give your best to your partner. Strive to be a great partner, and a great relationship will unfold. Don’t focus on whether your partner is doing their 100 percent; instead, focus on your end of things.
Laziness Leads to a Lackluster Love Life: 10 Musts for Building a Stronger, Happier Relationship
(intro & interview) by Sarah Turner
Health & Life March/April 2017